Try the agreement and ending with an adult partner, or use the self-practice alternative.
Choose your version before beginning
This is an original course exercise. This exercise gives you a chance to put the previous demonstration into ordinary words. You may practise with a consenting adult who can understand and communicate their choice, or practise alone. Both versions offer useful learning. A partner is not required for course progress. If you choose self-practice, rehearse the invitation and stopping words aloud, then settle for a brief practice with your own hands resting comfortably.
Keep the shared version short: suggest two or three minutes and agree the actual duration together. The other person stays fully clothed. Use hands-off practice near the shoulders or hands as the default. Avoid intimate body areas. Do not add a full body sequence, special equipment, music, or a promised outcome. Your task is to maintain a clear agreement, notice comfort, and end considerately.
Start only after a clear agreement
Explain that you are learning and that this is not medical treatment. Describe where you intend to sit, where your hands will be, and that you will not touch. Ask whether the person wants to participate and whether anything about the proposed arrangement needs to change. “Would you like to?” gives them room to decline. “You do not mind, do you?” makes refusal harder and is less useful.
Agree that either person can stop at any moment. If light touch is chosen instead of the default, it must be separately and explicitly agreed for the exact area beforehand, over clothing, without pressure or manipulation. You can keep this first attempt entirely hands-off. Begin only when the agreement is clear and both of you are comfortable.
Notice choices, then finish
During the short practice, keep ordinary communication possible. Do not interpret silence as continuing permission. If the person changes their mind, seems uncomfortable, or asks to stop, move your hands away promptly and check what they want. Stop as well if your own position becomes uncomfortable. No one needs to finish the planned time to make the attempt count as learning.
At the end, lower your hands and state that the practice has finished. Allow an unhurried transition. Ask about practical comfort if the person wishes to answer; do not ask them to confirm healing or a special sensation. For self-practice, simply notice whether the position and duration suited you. Either version can finish with one private learning point: what was clear, and what you would change next time.
A pause is also a considered outcome
You may discover that you would rather rehearse the words before trying the exercise, or that today is not a suitable day. Pause without arranging another person just to complete a lesson. Do not collect a partner’s personal story for your notes. Record only what helps you understand your own choices. When you continue, choose the statement that accurately reflects whether you tried the exercise or paused for now.